Since my first post about how my husband and I conceived I've had a few questions from people going through similar problems. We got pregnant, and I believe you can too.
With specific regard to PCOS and a low sperm count I can only tell you what I know about our own situation. I'm not a doctor and you should consult yours for specific advice about conceiving in your particular situation. Here goes.
Hubbie told me he couldn't have children early on in our relationship, when we were eating dinner at my flat one day. It's the main reason he and his ex split. It wasn't in her 'life plan' apparently. Rest assured if I ever meet her in the street I shall enjoy showing off our beautiful daughter and laughing in her face!
My response to hubbie when he told me was, 'there's more than one way to have a baby'. I told him about my PCOS and that I wanted to have a baby and that I 'knew' it would happen.
I knew I loved my husband very early in to our relationship and I knew that if we wanted a baby we could do it.
We talked about adoption, ovary drilling, sperm and egg donation. We talked about using clomid - a fertility drug that has been documented as working very well for women with PCOS but can result in multiple pregnancies! We familiarised ourselves with the requirements for adoption and IVF in our area. We both knew we'd have to lose weight to do either. Our game plan was to spend 2011 getting fitter, adjusting our diets and not giving the GP any excuse to put us off IVF. We planned our wedding for October 2011, a month long holiday in the USA, and decided we would see our GP early in 2012 to discuss our options.
To that end we both tried to take control of our diets. Hubbie stopped drinking and eating kebabs! We both took vitamins from the end of 2010. I even took folic acid as I had read it can help women with PCOS to get pregnant. I have also been taking metformin since 2009 when I was diagnosed with my PCOS and type 2 diabetes. Whilst I never had a lot of common PCOS problems (excess hair, spots etc) I had struggled with my weight since about 20 (I'm 29 now). Not only did metformin help stabilise and eventually help me start losing weight, it also helped regulate my cycles. I'm pretty sure I only ovulate every other month as I could feel the pain of it!
The first thing any decent doctor will tell you when you're struggling to conceive is to stop trying. Stop monitoring your cycle. Stop taking your temperature and calling your husband home from work to have sex! Stress plays a major part in the inability to conceive. The absolute best thing you can do is have sex every two or three days throughout your cycle, and enjoy it! You're making a baby, not planning military operations!!
The basis of us getting pregnant was that we did all these things above and we weren't trying. Sex was fun and spontaneous and neither of us were stressed! Froglet was conceived during a quickie on the sofa before hubbie went to work ;) we enjoy pointing out the spot to people when they're sitting on it!! We had to bring our wedding forward and cancel our honeymoon, but the payoff was our gorgeous daughter!
You can do it too, good luck
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Holy cow, babies aren't brought by the stork???
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